3 Things You Must Do to Be Happy

To be happy you must-

It turns out that the key to happiness is very simple.

But it’s not easy.

I’m going through a period of huge transformation, and it’s really tough. I have been stumbling along the way, but with the best support team in place, I have felt encouraged.

I saw this quote somewhere and resonated deeply with it.


Letting go is a huge challenge for most of us. Letting go of toxic people, limiting beliefs, and situations that no longer serve you,  all have the great potential to make room for what you desire most in your life.


I had to let go of my job in non-profit so I could:

  1. Empower people to love their bodies and find deep self-love;
  2. Teach kids about civic and social responsibility through art;
  3. Use improv to help children become better citizens;
  4. Partner with people to help them achieve transformation through an exploration of their values and deepest desires; 
  5. Encourage people to become more self-confident through facilitated improvisation games; and
  6. Be a mother.

As far as I know, this is what I am meant to do in the world. I know that when I finally made the decision to leave, opportunities began coming my way out of seemingly nowhere.

What I know to be true is that it took me letting go of what was gone, to be ready for what was to come next. And I was grateful for what remained when I left my job:  great memories, new tools and skills, and amazing friendships!

There’s no big secret here–I simply made space for all the things I longed for.

And now I look forward to what else is coming next. Whether it’s a lesson I need to learn, meeting a big goal, or stopping to celebrate my successes, it’s all possible because I let go.

Please don’t get me wrong. I am working hard for this. To whom much is given, much is required. But my Black ass is in alignment with Universe! 

No time for dress rehearsals, folks. This is it. And remember, tomorrow is not promised to any of us.

This journey requires a bit of courage, a lot of commitment, and the right support.

Never give up!xo



Tiny Houses, Turning 40, & Clearing the Clutter

When I first started writing this post, it was going to be called, “5 Soul Changing Events of 2014.” I started writing it, and it was basically a boring recap of what I’ve already written about this year. And it felt like a major cop-out given that I haven’t written a post in over a month. So, I changed my mind, which happens often, as you know.


I’d rather tell you all about 2015, and what’s to come.

There are a few things that will happen in 2015 for sure. For one, I’ll be turning 40! And I can’t tell you how excited I am about it. My 30’s have been so full of growth and change, I can hardly recognize myself. Getting older has been a wonderful experience for me. I trust my instincts more and care less and less about what others think of me. Talk about a weight (pun intended) off my shoulders.  I’m quite certain that 40 promises to take that self-confidence and carefree attitude to the next level. YAY ME!!

forever 39

As I’ve reminisced over the events of the last year, I realize just how much I miss my creative self. Don’t get me wrong, writing is a wonderfully creative outlet, and I plan to continue doing it well into the future. What I haven’t spent much time doing is cultivating my crafty/DIY side. I have so many projects on my Pinterest boards that are just waiting to come to life. And so, while I don’t really like resolutions per se (they’re way to fraught with pressure and expectation), one of my goals in 2015 is to give myself time to get my hands dirty and start making things again.

repurposed tray

My other obsession has been tiny houses, a movement that has increased in popularity in the last few years. The idea being that you downsize your living quarters to the bare minimum, owning only what you really need and love. Some folks move into places as small as 150 square feet! That’s not something my hubby and I are prepared to do, but we agree it’s time to purge and let go of the stuff that’s bogging us down. Between the two of us, we have more collections than an antique shop. It’s embarrassing to admit, but we have a 5 bedroom house (3 bedrooms are tiny) and every inch is filled to the brim. It’s a bit fucking much. I look forward to being clutter free in 2015!


And finally, I hope to rid myself of virtual clutter in 2015. I’m as addicted to social media as the next gal. And it has taken up so much of my brain space, leaving little room for my own thoughts and feelings to fully develop. I love the connectivity  aspect of social media, but I’m not that interested in watching the latest YouTube video of cats tucking in babies. Yeah, it’s cute. But really, I can’t. I’m done. One way I plan to cut the clutter is to unfollow a lot of Facebook “friends.” I want to know what my close friends and family are up to. I want to see pictures of their kids and their moments of joy. I want to scroll less and live more.

social media clutter

I feel really good about 2015. I anticipate lots of joy and adventure, allowing myself to really be free. My life is so good, and I never want to forget that.

Wishing you and yours the happiest of new year celebrations. May your 2015 be full of hope and possibility!